“Empathy is a mutable trait, it can be taught”
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|1.||Why should we become more empathetic?|
|2.||How can we practice empathy?|
Empathy is the ability to understand, connect, and feel another human being without any judgment. Yes, we are born with some level of empathy engraved in us but that doesn’t essentially mean that we cannot change that level.
Empathy is an essential skill in any human being. Luckily, through constant practice, we can become more empathetic.
Well, why should we become more empathetic?
- To strengthen our relationships: In a relationship of any kind we want to be understood, loved, heard, and feel connected. And once we start to empathize we began to understand and see people which strengthens our relationships.
- To find satisfaction and meaning: As humans, we seek connection. It’s deep human connections that gives our life meaning. And when we empathize we begin to connect more deeply. As experts like to put it, we start noticing commonality.
- Be happy: According to a 75 years long research, good relationships keep us happier and healthier. When we start to grow more empathetic our relationships with people and with us strengthens. Hence, we become happier.
- To excel at work: It is proven that our creativity and productivity at work increases when we start empathizing with our coworkers.
How can we practice empathy?
- Start noticing your surrounding: Be observant of others and things around you. Take a second now and try to understand what a person sitting next to you is feeling.
Being mindful of your surrounding is the first step towards practicing empathy.
- Listen: Don’t listen to answer, listen to understand. When someone is sharing their experiences or feelings with you, ask follow up questions instead of giving suggestions. Just be curious genuinely and listen with open ears.
- Stop and talk: Take a moment and talk with strangers whenever you have a chance. At least talk to one new person in a week.
- Don’t judge: Judging people will prevent you from being empathetic. Remember your part of the reality is not the only one. Instead of judging try to know people’s back story. Everyone has their reasons and experiences.
“Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone…just remember that all the people in this world haven’t had the advantages that you’ve had.”
― F. Scott Fitzgerald
- Spend unplugged time with your family: Spend every day for about an hour with your family without any digital distraction. Share how your day was and have meaningful conversations.
- Open up: When someone shares his or her intimidate feelings or experience, listen to them patiently and also share yours. Empathy is a two-way channel.
- Start with one person: Try understanding one person for truly who they are. Try to understand their perspective of the world. Have good conversations with them and try to observe and feel them. That’s where you can start.
We can grow our empathy on purpose through practice. Empathy is a beautiful skill that protects our humanity. Make it your choice to practice empathy everyday. Trust me, it will change the way you view the world.
“Empathy doesn’t just make you good- it’s good for you, too.”-George Ordwell